I used to say I had never met my soul mate. After much deliberation and thought, I realized I have and I married him. He totally understands me; helps me solve problems and is concerned when I am ill or upset, and is my best friend forever.
Unfortunately, my beloved has serious mental health issues which caused our breakup and separation. I am there for him, and he for me. I suppose we only get parts of a person, there always seems to be that one piece of the puzzle that does not fit. This is certainly the case for us.
While I am no "walk in the park," either, I have to have a peaceful place to call home. Therefore, it was 5 years ago that I elected to move out and call Boulder my home.
I certainly do miss having a “significant other” in my life. However, maybe I really do have someone, but without the baggage. There is something to be said about having a warm body to wake up with in the mornings, and to snuggle with in the evenings, to grow old gracefully, together.
There are still many benefits in being friends, and I can talk to him about everything, including dating. It is remarkable that he can answer me truthfully, without jealousy or subjectivity. How does he do it? I certainly cannot call myself mature on that level.
For now, that is not in the cards, but there is always tomorrow. I have many good things happening for me in my life right now for which I am grateful.
Another reason to count my blessings...